This advice strikes a chord deep within me since, as a
double Virgo who is nearly obsessed with getting things to be perfect, I’ve
been struggling with giving myself permission to make a "mistake". So in a moment
of recognition, I decided I needed to understand why the chord was struck in
the first place. I realized I wasn’t struggling with taking a risk, or being OK
with taking a risk, but with this concept called A Mistake.
Take a look at these synonyms:
Ø Error
Ø Fault
Ø Blunder
Ø Gaffe
Ø Inaccuracy
Ø Misstep
How do those words make you feel?
I don’t know about you but I feel like crawling into a hole.
One of the biggest lessons I have learned in my spiritual
work is that there is no concept of right and wrong. Viewing actions,
behaviors, and emotions as either right or wrong keeps us stuck in feelings of
fear, guilt and shame, of judgment. As a result, we go into a state of
energetic resistance, which then blocks us from achieving our desired results
.… To take it a step further, right/wrong thinking blocks us from seeing the
Divine within.
The word Mistake is laden with negative energy. So when I
tell myself, “It’s OK to make a mistake” it means that such a thing exists and
I am undoubtedly going to commit a WRONG, incorrect, unwise, or unfortunate act
caused by bad judgment. That I should have known better.
Wow! No wonder people are frightened to step out of the
comfort zone – who would want to invoke that energy, even if they are encouraged “to be ok with it”.
New Perspectives on Mistakes
One of my favorite anecdotes about mistakes and “failing”
involves Thomas Edison. When asked to comment on how many times he failed to
invent the light bulb, Edison stated that he did not fail but discovered a
thousand ways to not build a light bulb. To quote: “I never failed once – It
just happened to be a 2000-step process.” He confirms my view that the path to
success is actually predicated upon all of the paths that lead to non-success –
that our actions and decisions represent paths that lead to us to exploration.
Sometimes the pathways don’t yield the desired result, but there are always
lessons to be learned – lessons to be built upon, that lay a foundation of
knowledge and wisdom.
Transforming the Energy
One of the exercises I do with my Reiki clients is to create
an intention for the session so the energy healing can not only resolve what’s
going on in the moment but also help manifest what is desired. The goal is to
focus on what we want to happen, but in the present tense and in a positive
way. For example, we focus on “I feel great – I am completely healthy” as
opposed to focusing on “I am not sick with the flu”. I have been told the brain
cannot process negatives so if we say “I am not sick with the flu”, the brain
interprets it as “I am sick with the flu”. To focus on the negative, even in an
effort to transform it, is to remain bound by it.
So I invite you to release yourself completely from the
chains of Mistakes, and in thus doing so, invoke creativity, and invite
explorations beyond what you initially imagined.